11/11/11 will be "what would have been" our daughter Katie's 21st birthday.
I spent all of October dreading November because it is the beginning of "sad dates" for me. So, when we found out on Monday that my husband has pneumonia, it did not sit well. Pneumonia is what killed Katie, at the young age of 7 years and 3 months.
So, tonight I was talking on the phone with my sister and mentioned the "11/11/11" fact. Her reply was, "Really? Oh, my God! That makes me feel so old!" Silence...disbelief...other thoughts unmentionable...
Then she said, "What do you think she would have been doing?" I responded, "Well, I'm not sure, but it would have been something and I would have loved to watch."
But then it was time for the Rachel Maddow Show, so my sister had to go because she could not miss the interview with Michael Moore from Denver. Whatever.
And my family wonders why I feel forgotten out here...will they remember on 11/11/11 that it is an important date - an especially difficult date - for me? Probably not. They haven't in the past. They probably just think we're over it.
Well, I'm here to say - once again - that YOU GET THROUGH IT, BUT YOU NEVER GET OVER IT.
And that is the truth. Remember your friends, and keep track of important dates and send them love. Especially if they are far away, without family support. They get tired of telling the story, and since you already know it, remind them that you do...and that you remember...and that you love them.
I'm just sayin'.
Happy Birthday, sweet Katie. I'm posting this early, because you deserve all the greetings I can muster for you on your special day. I miss you, and I love you, and know you are just fine.
Love, Mama
When I arrived in Harvard Square and called Fritzie, she was stuck in traffic. About ten minutes later, she called back asking where I was...and we kept asking questions of each other until -- TA DA!! -- there we were!! Yep, it's true, Fritzie and I met up and we had a great time together!! (I promise to post a photo, but need to get her permission first!)
We sat on a bench outside of a flower shop for about an hour and a half, talking about this and that and a little more of this and some more of that. It was like we'd just visited last week. It was as if we'd known each other for a long time. I felt right at home with Fritzie. Every time I think about this morning, I just start smiling!
And I got to meet her husband and her beautiful daughter, and she showed me a photo of Gabby!! Oh, we just talked about everything. I gave her a little "book of art" I made for her, something like the accordian book in my intro to this thread. She gave me wisdom and cheer and smiles and hugs and I'm not the same Mary I was when I left home this morning!
Today has been an awesome day, and this is just one of the reasons.
I am a very, very lucky girl.